Do you really offer a guarantee?

Yes. If you attend a Slow Speed Dating event, and you're not delighted with the event and the people you meet, please contact us for a refund. No other dating or "singles" event offers a guarantee like this. We do have a couple of conditions.

1) You must attend the event. If you don't show up, or leave early, we don't offer a refund. (Why? If you don't attend, or leave early, you don't get the benefit of meeting people, and people don't get the benefit of meeting you. And, you take up a seat that could have been filled by someone who wants to play. )                    

2) You must request your refund within 3 days of the event. (Why? Because our event processor charges us fees that they don't refund after 3 days. Currently we pay these fees rather than passing them on to you.)

What if I'm outside the age range for this event?

The age range is a guideline. Most of the people you meet at this event will be in the age range shown, but if you're a little older or a little younger, and that works for you, join us! If you're more than about 5 years outside the age range, join the email list and we'll let you know when there's an event that's perfect for you.

I'm gay. What about me?

Stay tuned for gay and lesbian events coming soon!

Is this a poly event?

Only if it says it is. If it doesn't specify that it's a poly event in the title or description, then it's not. If you're poly, you're welcome to attend -- and expect to find folks who are seeking monogamous relationships, or who are not familiar with polyamory.

Is it actually slow, as in takes longer than regular speed dating?

It's slow like slow food, or slow sex. "Slow" refers to the care and attention we devote to forming connections at the event. You'll spend about 7 minutes with each person, like some other speed dating events. But the event does take a bit longer, because we add conscious connection exercises to each interaction.

OK, so I meet some cool people at the event. Then what?

At the end of the event, you'll hand us your ratings of the people you met. We'll feed them to our matching robot, and in a day or two you'll have your matches. For each match, you'll receive an email with the other person's email address.

What about parking and transit?

Free street parking after 6pm. Venues are near BART.

What can/can't I bring to the event?

We request that you leave intoxicants at home. While alcohol is a nice edge reducer at many singles events, we aim to create a conscious, connected container, and being clear, sober and awake is the best place to start.

Also, please keep fragrance use light, and plan to silence your cell phone upon arrival.

How do I contact you?

Is my registration/ticket transferrable?

Yes. Please follow these instructions to transfer your registration to another person.

Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?

No. Bring ID that matches the name on your ticket.

Turrns out I can't attend the event. What is the refund policy?

Contact us as soon as you know you won't be using your ticket. If we fill your seat, we'll send you a refund after the event. Please note there are no refunds if you are a no-show a the event -- you must let us know.

The name on the registration/ticket doesn't match the attendee. Is that okay?

Nope. We need to know the name of the person who will be using the registration. So you need to transfer your registration to the person who will be attending.


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We promise a great time and real connections with excellent people. If you attend a Slow Speed Dating event and are anything less than delighted with the event, we will happily refund your registration fee. No other "singles" event offers this kind of guarantee. We're committed to an authentically good time. See FAQ for complete details.